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What do you need to change the most in your life?
Posted on Oct 25th, 2007
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rudyan
rudyan
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for October 22, 2007:
I don't need to change a single thing. I am done rejecting pieces of me, regardless of what I or others think in moments of weakness needs changing. Believe me, there has been enough rejection in my life. Nowadays I'm into accepting myself, no matter what.
Feeling there's a need to change something about myself suggests I'm not already perfect. I AM.
Feeling there's a need to change something about myself suggests I'm not already perfect. I AM.
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that was great Rudyan .I need some of that. love,jen
I wish I felt that way. I do believe that we are all perfectly who we need or are supposed to be at any given moment. I guess my problem is I am not in the moment. I want to know who I should be in the next moment and work on that.
Jen, you've got it. I used to believe everything my inner critic said, then one day I started to think about that. Why would I believe I was fat, for instance, when the scale and people told me I was skinny? Why would I believe I was stupid when I hold a PhD? That made me start questioning some of the other things I've always believed about myself. And then at some point I came across Byron Katie, who says about everything: “Is that true? Is that really true?” And especially, “Who would I be if I couldn't think that thought (that I'm fat, stupid, etc.)?”
Wingsearching, my question then would be: Have you ever seen a “next moment”? It's like, Does tomorrow ever come? All we have, ever, is the “given moment”, so what is there to work on? Who we are (ie, the essence of us) doesn't change from moment to moment; if something changes it comes out of thought, not out of reality. If it changes once, it can change again, and again. Why would we waste time on, or worry about, that?
Who am I without any thought attached to the being-ness? Who am I when I can say “I am. (period, full stop)” as a complete sentence, without any qualifiers? There's tremendous freedom in “I AM!” All the rest is illusion, really.
So Doc … (smiling) … I love this piece … really love it and will take it to bed and meditate on it.
Jim x
I like that part that we only have the given moment. jen
Thanks, Jim and Jen. Love you guys. And Jim, oops, I guess I gave something away there, Trust you to pick up on it :)